When the baby is born, and begins to grow, we will cease to be whoever and whatever we want to be. We will be parents...someone else's parents. Our identities as a mother and father will be the only identity that our children will know. Of course, we can choose what kind of parents we want to be and we will have a unique identity in the choices we make-however, we will still be parents. This thought is striking since this will be the first time that we will be seen as an entity and our choices will so directly change someone else's life.
Everyone needs to have something that fulfills them and certainly parents cannot lose their identities completely, yet our children probably won't recognize us as people until they are well into early adulthood. I say this as a young adult who now sees their parents and the choices they made as one human-being to another-instead of just "my parents". We have made a choice to surrender our lives and let them cease to be about us.
-Julia
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